Dear Woman of God,
It’s been awhile since
I’ve wrote to you directly. I’ve been kept very busy by the things of my
surroundings. First, being a wife, this keeps me thinking of what he needs,
brunch and dinner daily, clean clothes, second being a mom this is the most
time consuming position as a Christian Home School Mom it’s a very important
task to daily take care of my 2 sons physical needs, spiritual, discipline,
teach them abc, 1,2,3 and building their character. What a job I have! I must
put these first daily after seeking God which is all day long and especially
during my morning walks and prayer time and evening prayer and repentance
seeking His presence as I go along.
After these it’s
important that I also take good care of myself by getting enough sleep, eating
enough and healthy foods, taking my vitamin daily, bathing/showers, this
determines my mood and my ability to serve as a wife and a mom. Next, it’s
important that I reach out to encourage, help, teach, and disciple the younger
woman and be a good neighbor. I have a neighbor, she’s a single-mom a few years
older than me raising 3 teenage daughters, she’s not a Christian and I’m really
not sure if she is really interested in being so. The first few months after
she moved in I didn’t even see her nor did we greet each other and then one day
here she comes to introduce herself, after that for the last 2 months it’s been
nothing but needs, I gave her advice on how to budget, I shared with her my
testimony and faith, I let her do her laundry at my house, I gave and I gave
until she crossed my boundary too many times and I put a stop to it all.
You see many people are
not seeking salvation in the form of God, they want their immediate needs to be
met by any person willing to help them and they are like a disease that will
take over if given the chance. This is a vivid but true illustration of how
people can take you for granted and it’s very important to stand firm on your
boundaries and to say no. The boundaries that she crossed with me were first
texting and calling me at 6:30 in the morning and then because I didn’t answer
knocking on my door asking if I can give her 3 daughters a ride to school. I
was not happy but I did it because her car was broken down; but I told her to
ask me in advance next time and she
asked me to make her daughter 2 sandwiches because she was out of
sandwich stuff. This interrupted my morning routine and made me grumpy later in
the day because I was doing for her instead of taking care of me so I could
take care of my children and husband. That’s not good! Then 2 days later she’s knocking on my door asking me to take her to the bank. It was 12 and I had
plenty to do and so I not so kindly told her it’s family time, I’ve got family
things to do right here. It really angered me and made me disturbed. After
trying to talk to her several times I decided she just wasn't getting it and I
had to put a stop to it because she had already asked me to take her kids to
school the next week which would mean I’d have to rearrange my whole schedule
for the morning and really that’s not good, my children need me there and I
almost let her get into my healthy boundaries but I retracted and that’s
important. Don’t let the unbelievers use you and cross your boundaries they
will do it again and again until you are walking very unhealthy. As an ex drinker, drug user and girl of the world I know these things from personal
experience and a very long lifestyle of sinning what it takes to be godly and
grow in His ways it takes a lot of personal space and devotion. We can’t please
every person and it’s very okay to say no to people who you really can’t help
the way they are needing or wanting you to. My husband likes to quote give as
you have been freely given which is good but not when it will cause you
unhealthy burdens or distract your job as a Mom and wife. Don’t let anyone tell
you that being a homemaker isn’t a real job or important! I will strongly
disagree as one for the last 4 years. I don’t get a day off I might get a rest
when my husband gives me one but he’s not accustomed to the routine and so I’m
usually helping him in some way, but my life is built around them and I’m not
ashamed or regret that at all. I feel valuable, needed, and important to be who
I am right here at my home. I hope that you do to. Regardless if you homeschool
or work a job outside the home being a Wife and a Mom come first and before all
is a devotion to God. If we do our works unto Him than we are living a
gratifying life not expecting rewards or appreciation for Him we know that our
reward is eternal life and the peace, joy, and love we get daily is well worth
it in my book.
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